This paper addresses my difficulties as a carer in engaging with many professionals in mental health, both locally associated with my son's acute inpatient care, and nationally where policies are being developed and their implementation is pursued. All of us are affected by The Department of Health (DoH) Mental Health policies and their implementation by professionals has formed the way in which professionals relate with my son and myself. The way in which my son is impacted inextricably affects the way I relate to professionals. I think my difficulty in engaging lies in the relationships we all have with each another. In focusing on the process within our relationships, I attempt to raise professionals' awareness of what constitutes a relationship when we dialogue. As it takes two to engage in a dialogue, I perceive my difficulty is also the difficulty of the professionals. Carers are becoming increasingly involved in the training of mental health professionals and our combined difficulty needs to be resolved, so that we all benefit. In order to achieve positive progression, there needs to be a radical change within our relationship to provide ease of engagement from all parties. In this paper I tentatively suggest how this process can be achieved.